Gender Roles In Children Essay, Research Paper
The Development of Gender Roles in Children
In a society filled with gender stereotypes and biases, children often adopt gender roles
which are not always equal to both males and females. As children move on through childhood
and later into adolescence many factors influence their views and behaviors towards gender roles.
These attitudes and behaviors are learned initially in the home, and later reinforced by many other
outside influences such as their school experiences, friends, teachers, and television. Children turn
out to internalize many of the gender stereotypes and behaviors of the past. Where are these
stereotypes coming from? The strongest influence on gender development occurs in the home,
with parents passing on many of the beliefs they have about gender roles.
Children learn at a young age what it means to be a boy or a girl in our society. Through
opportunities, encouragement and discouragement, obvious behaviors, covert suggestions, and
various types of guidance, children experience the formation of their gender role socialization. It
is hard for children to grow into adults without experiencing some form of gender bias or gender
stereotyping, whether it be that boys are supposed to be tough or better at math, or that females
can only play with dolls. Sex Roles: A Journal of Research states, parents, especially fathers,
tend to reward boys more than girls for displaying gender-congruent forms of play. They also
tend to punish boys more harshly than girls for deviations from prescribed gender role norms
(McCreary 519). Often times this punishment is mental, with boys being teased by their fathers
for acting like a sissy, or not being tough.
A child s earliest exposure to what it means to be male or female comes from parents.
From the time they are babies, parents treat sons and daughters differently, dressing infants in
gender specific colors and clothing, and giving toys based on gender. One study indicated that
parents have different expectations of sons and daughters as early as 24 hours after they are born
(Thorne 1993). Children internalize parental messages at a young age. Sex role differences have
been found in children as young as two years old. Developmental Psychology states, children at
two and a half years of age use gender stereotypes in negotiating their world and are likely to
generalize gender stereotypes to a variety of activities, objects, and occupations (Fagot 226).
Children many times will even deny that something is reality when it does not fit into their gender
expectations. For example, a young child might believe only a male could be a police officer or
firefighter, even if their mother holds that position.
Children s toy preferences can be directly related to parental influence, with parents
providing gender specific toys. Parents encourage participation in sex-typed activities, including
doll playing and housekeeping for girls, and playing with action figures and taking part in sports
activities for boys. Parents reward play that is gender stereotyped and encourage these behaviors
and attitudes. While both mothers and fathers contribute to the gender stereotyping of their
children, fathers have been found to reinforce gender stereotypes more often than do mothers
(Fagot 225-230). For example, fathers tend to reward their sons for behavior that show signs of
strength and dominance. A study of children s rooms reports that girls rooms have more pink,
dolls, and domestic play sets; boys rooms have more blue, sports equipment, tools, building
blocks, and vehicles (Pomerleau 359-367). Girls are more likely to take part in domestic chores,
such as house cleaning, laundry, and washing dishes, while boys are more likely to be given
maintenance chores like, mowing the lawn, taking out garbage, and fixing a broken fence. These
types of household chores lead children to link types of work to gender, thus enforcing gender
Parental attitudes toward children have a strong impact on developing their sense of self
and self esteem. Often times, parents send subtle messages regarding what is acceptable for each
gender. These messages are internalized by the child and are strongly established in early
childhood. Sex Roles: A Journal of Research states, messages about what is appropriate based
on gender are so strong, that even when children are exposed to different attitudes and
experiences, they will revert to stereotyped choices (McCreary 520). For example, boys would
avoid an activity like dancing because they see it as a traditionally feminine activity. Boys would
engage in more aggressive forms of play like football or baseball.
While there may be some benefits to strict gender role stereotypes, there are also some
costs. These costs include limiting opportunities for both boys and girls, ignoring talent, and
maintaining a level of unfairness in our society. Children whose mothers work outside the home
do not fit into the gender stereotype as much as those whose mothers stay at home. In fact,
preschool children whose mothers work outside the home experience the world with a sense that
everyone in the family gets to become a member of the outside world. Their sense of self includes
the knowledge that they have the ability to make choices which are not hindered by gender
(Lytton 267-296). Parents that do not fit the mold for gender stereotyping tend to offer more
parental warmth and support. These parents tend to be highly encouraging regarding achievement
and self worth in their children. One study reports, androgynous individuals have been found to
have higher self-esteem, higher levels of identity achievement, and more flexibility in dating and
love relationships (Lytton 292). Those parents who wish to be gender fair encourage the best
out of their sons and daughters, and their children are more likely to adopt an androgynous
parental style. Other elements in a child s environment help to reinforce the gender stereotypes
they are exposed to in the home, and are continued throughout their childhood into their
adolescence. A child s sense of self, or self-concept, is a result of the various ideas, attitudes,
behaviors, or beliefs, which he or she may be exposed to.
When children start school many of these gender based ideas and beliefs are reinforced by
their peers. Boys influence other boys through forms of punishment and reward. A boy that acts
in a particularly feminine manner is likely to be teased and ridiculed for acting like a girl.
Ultimately, these kids will be rejected by their peer groups and looked upon as outcasts. For
example, one study reports boys displaying cross-gender behaviors tend to play alone almost three
times more frequently than boys who act in a gender-congruent manner (Fagot 225-230).
Another study in the same journal reports that males described as having feminine attitudes or
acting in feminine ways were seen as less attractive and less popular than those boys portraying
traditionally masculine traits or attitudes. The avoidance of femininity seems to be a huge factor
in attempting to understand male gender and masculinity. Peer reaction to girls who deviate from
the traditionally feminine role is quite different; their behavior tends to be ignored and sometimes
even rewarded with elevated social status in their female peer groups (Fagot 225-230).
During my research I found as children move on through childhood and later adolescence,
many factors influence their views and behaviors towards gender roles. These attitudes and
behaviors are initially learned in the home, and are later reinforced by outside influences. The
strongest influence seems to occur in the home where parents covertly pass on gender bias
stereotypes to their children. Fathers seem to have a greater impact than do mothers on gender
roles in their children, especially young males. In a society filled with male dominance, I was not
surprised at the outcome of my research. Children raised to be androgynous have been found to
have higher self esteem, higher levels of identity achievement, and more success in personal
relationships. Parental influence on gender role socialization is so strong that those parents who
want to be gender fair would do well to adopt an androgynous gender role orientation and
encourage the same in their children. We are a society of those who should know better,
however, we turn out children that develop stereotypical gender roles. If we do not take steps to
teach our children individuality, we will continue to mask the biased opinions that continue to
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