Alternatives To Spanking Essay, Research Paper
Alternatives to spanking
My friend Amber s daughter Sara who is in the first grade was suspended from school
for hitting her teacher. Amber was outraged; she stormed down to the school to get Sara.
The teacher explained to Amber what had happened and that they will not put up with
that kind of behavior. Amber took Sara home and started yelling for her to pull down her
pants because she was going to be spanked for hitting her teacher. This disturbed me
greatly I didn t understand why Amber was punishing Sara for violence with violence.
There were many other punishments she could have given Sara without using any
violence. Taking things away from them, putting them on restriction, and make them do
extra chores around the house.
One good punishment without using violence is taking away things that your child
enjoys. If your child loves Scooby Doo take the movie away, if they have a favorite cd
or tape take it away. Then you explain to them why it is being taken away. Let your child
know that when they start to behave right that they will get it back then and only then.
This is a much better punishment then spanking because every time they want to watch
the movie or listen to their cd hey won t be able to and they will have plenty of time to
think about what they did wrong. Taking away things your child enjoys is an excellent
way to teach your child that bad behavior is not excepted and there will be consequences.
Another good punishment without using violence is restriction. I remember as a kid
restriction being the worst and most boring punishment you could give me. Restriction
means not going anywhere, not talking on the phone, and not playing with my friends.
This a good punishment because it can be long and drawn out. Every time their friends
call they don t get to talk to them, every time they are invited to go somewhere they
won t be able to go. They will have plenty of time to think of how to correct their bad
behavior since they aren t allowed to do anything else.
Finally, another good punishment without using violence is making them do extra
chores around the house. Make them mow the lawn or pull weeds anything that they will
wish they weren t doing. This is a good way for the parents to catch up with the house
work and for the children realize that they wouldn t be doing any of these chores if they
had been acting right. The best punishments for children are one where they actually have
to think long and hard about what they did.
Spanking or hitting your child is not a productive punishing tool. All it does is teach
your child to be violent. There are many other ways to punish your child besides hitting
them. Taking things away from them, putting them on restriction, and making them do
extra chores around the house are all good not violent punishments.