– Love Essay, Research Paper
Jake Johnson will never forget the day he was caught in the act. “My wife came home early from work. I had the day off and was masturbating in our bedroom, when she walked right in on me. I was embarrassed and frightened all at once. I think I pulled the covers over my head right after I saw her jaw drop,” the 36-year-old professional says.
His wife, Laura, remembers feeling shocked. “I could not believe my eyes. We have been married for 5 years, and in my opinion we have a very satisfying sex life. I could not understand why he would masturbate. He gets to have me every night. I don’t mean to sound conceited, but I always assumed that having regular sex with a woman ? especially in a steady relationship or marriage, where you know you can have sex pretty much whenever ? sort of stopped a guy from wanting to do it himself.”
Laura fails to realize that sometimes regular sex can get dull. “I felt like a little kid again,” Jake explains. “I kept thinking to myself that I was doing something ‘naughty’ ? and it was great. I love my wife and would never cheat on her, but sometimes I just need to do something that steers away from our regular sex life together.”
Laura and Jake were able to work things out by having an open discussion. “I’m glad we were able to talk, because it helped me see things from his perspective,” Laura says. “And believe me, I would much rather he masturbate than cheat on me!”
Tony, 26, was not as fortunate in his relationship. He had a steady girlfriend for 3 years and kept masturbating all the time. “I’m a sales rep for a major technology company, so I spend a lot of time on the road. I would masturbate quite a lot when I traveled, and my girlfriend ? I assumed ? never knew about it.” That all changed when Tony’s girlfriend gave him a good-natured rib about spending too much time in the bathroom. “I was in the shower one morning a little longer than usual, and when I came out, she gave me this mischievous look and said something like, ‘Boy, you must have been having a really good time in there.’ I thought I would joke about it and said, ‘Well, sometimes a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do,’ and I winked. She got totally horrified! She threw her pillow at me and said if I would rather have sex with myself, then I did not need her anymore. She got dressed and stormed out. It was the beginning of the end of our relationship. Even though we talked about it, she just did not respond to me sexually in the same way anymore.”